If the boy or girl is upset for any reason, keep asking him questions. The parents then became Detective Sherlock Holmes. Talking about the same thing all the time increases the child's stress. This actually creates distance between the family members and the child. The tendency to look at the child with more questions from the parents or in the eyes of unnecessary suspicion all the time on various subjects including test results, sports, friends creates distance with the child.
Family members should refrain from such behavior. When a child is frustrated with something, he should be allowed to spend time with himself. This reduces the child's own instability and eliminates the risk of making the wrong decision. Children and adolescents in a state of restless mood are less likely to get angry. In such a situation, it is wise to let him spend time like himself without asking him too many questions or bothering him unnecessarily.
Rubina Khan, director of human resource development at Best Holdings Limited, a private construction company, said of her seventh-grader, Roudra Ahmed, "My son is often frustrated at school for various reasons. At that time, he reacted badly if he spoke to her a little. In such a situation, I notice not to touch him too much. After being alone for some time like himself, he himself informed me of his problem.
This behavior of mother Rubina during the instability of child sunshine does not increase the distance with the child, on the contrary the child may think of the parents as a place of his great dependence. Parents should give their children a chance to be a little more alone in order to put themselves in the place of their child's greater dependence.
Researchers at The Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley, believe that parental behavior makes a child more depressed during his or her emotional turmoil.
Social researcher Christine Carter said in her research article, ‘One of the main reasons for the distance between children in middle-class families is that they are constantly questioning the child about something. About 6 percent of 14- to 21-year-olds resent their parents for being picky. Because of this annoyance, 80 percent of children engage in various crimes, including drugs, during adolescence. '(September, 2011).
Dr. Kenneth L. Griezel, a physician at the Children's Hospital of Wisconsin in the United States, said in a scientific article, Ninety percent of adolescents suffer from depression and depression at some point in their adolescence.
According to a report in the Indian Journal of Psychiatry at the National Library of Medicine in the United States, the rate of mental depression and depression among adolescents worldwide is increasing every year. By 2020, the number of mentally depressed people in the world will increase by 5.6 percent. Psychiatrists and researchers around the world emphasize the importance of giving a child as much time as he or she can as a conscious parent to help the child develop a healthy mental state.
Do not do that with the child.
* You need to understand your child's problem-hesitation-discomfort first. For this, try to be as friendly with the child as possible.
* Do not doubt the child's friends and travel unnecessarily. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection.
* Rather than interfering with all the child's decisions, focus on making effective and necessary decisions through logical discussions with him.
* Refrain from talking by repeatedly reminding the child of the bad aspects or failures of the child. This increases the child's frustration.
* Many of us have a tendency to talk in comparison with other people's children. This kind of behavior reduces the child's respect for you.